08-04-2010, 11:53 PM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | I have better conversation with my walls than my husband...
been married for 5 years, have one child. For the last 4 years I have been letting my husband know I don't understand why he does not talk to me. When out with others he is a clown, you can not get him to stop talking, or joking. Once we hit our home, or vehicle the silence begins.
It is driving me crazy that he can talk to others but not me. I began to think something was wrong with me. I have always been a talker. This was something I looked for in a mate.
Recently I told him I feel fooled. In the beginning he talked, called on the phone and talked. Then it turned into I am not a phone person. Had I known this or was able to see the red flags prior to us getting married I told him I would not have even considered it. I am losing my mind. I should not have to ask 50 questions to get a conversation out of my husband.
This incompatibility has a domino effect on our marriage. He thinks I am saying he is not loving me like I want to be loved, this has nothing to do with love. But this is his part of who he is, I just wish I had known this. I don't want to change him. I tell him I would not be mad if he found someone else because she may be better for him.
He thinks something is wrong with him, I tell him nothing is wrong with you, I am a talker you are not and for me this is a void in our marriage. I don't know what to do. I am bored, I am relieved when he travels for work, I don't know what to do except leave.