I am a 49 y.o. man, married for 27 years. The problem is multifold. for the past few years, my wife and I constantly argue of the same old stuff, adult kids at home not helping, no help with pool care (she wanted it, not me), ETC. We will talk about it and things will change for a week or so, then go right back to the same old rut. I know that I am not always an easy person to live with, but neither is she. I constantly go around wondering if I say something, is it going to set her off. It is like walking on eggshells all the time.
Our sex life is on an as needed (by me) basis. She has never actually told me no, but most times in the last few years, I would have got more involvment from a log. Alot of times she looks disinterested and almost a "hurry up" attitude. She hasnt even said "I love you" in months. I tell her at least once a day.
Now the bad part. I have recently started seeing a really good friend of ours who was widowed about 5 years ago. It started as a purely sexual satisfaction thing, but we are both starting to develop feelings. She makes me feel loved and wanted. She is full of affection. I am a very affectionate person.
Problem. I am contimplating a divorce. I do still love my wife very much, but don't feel loved by her, even though she will say she does love me. Do I try counseling, and hope we stay on the right track. Or, do I leave. If I stay and quit the other relationship and later things fall apart again, I may loose any chance with the other woman. HELP.