I have seen my lawyer, with a follow-up to get a few more questions answered next week. I have an appt set for me to see the MC next week. I am planning to ask husband to leave. I will not engage in too much discussion with him, other than to give him the reasons I want him to go. I will tell him to meet me for MC if he has any desire to better understand how we got here or reconcile, but that choice is up to him. I considered allowing him to stay in the house while going through MC, but I really think he needs to leave. I am open to a reconciliation but he will have to come to MC and work through our problems to determine if there is even a marriage to be saved. I am spending the next few weeks getting all my ducks in a row, bank accounts, PO Box, safe deposit box, etc. I have a night when both kids will be at friends houses in 3 weeks, and that is when I will have the talk with my husband. I am so scared, only because I don't have ANY clue how he will react. But I am more scared of living like this forever…so it's time. I would love to hear how "the talk" went for others whose spouses may not have seen it coming. Any words of wisdom are appreciated.