Re: my boy might not be mine (long but important)
My son was three when I met and married his mom. Not one piece of my DNA is in him, but after 27 years, he has adopted so many of my traits and mannerisms that strangers all the time tell us how much we "look" alike. I wouldn't blame you in the slightest for walking out of this situation. I probably would. If you two do decide to work it out, DNA or no DNA, that boy will be yours and you'll be amazed at much "you" is going to be passed to him. He didn't choose his parents and he's not to blame for mistakes his mom or her sperm donor made. "Dad" is the guy who plays with him, changes diapers, feeds him, reads to him, disciplines him, teaches him, etc. That baby doesn't know how he got here and he could care less about paternity tests. If he cries, the guy who shows up is Dad.