How can I talk my wife into seeing a marriage counselor?
My wife and I have been a couple for 4 years and married for 1. We have two lovely girls. We've had rough times together, but have always loved each other. We both have issues that need to be dealt with, but we don't know how to go about taking care of that. I understand marriage counseling has helped a lot of couples that I know. I've never been open-minded enough to accept counseling, but anymore, I'll do anything to keep my marriage and family together and healthy. I watched my brother-in-law/best friend go through all kinds of counseling for drug and alcohol addiction, so I know that it works. I'm open to counseling now more than ever, but my wife is not. She had a very traumatic childhood, which I believe is a big part of our marital problems. She knows that she has issues, but is not willing to deal with them. She says, "I know what my problems are. I don't need to pay someone I don't even know to tell me what they are." I know that's not how counseling works, but I don't know how to convince her to try it, and that it really can help us. She's ready for a separation to take time consider if it would be in the best interest of our children for us to divorce. I think it would be better for our kids to be in a loving family with their REAL parents than it would be for our children to have parents that are divorced because they "couldn't get along." I love her and I know that she loves me, but we've been through so much together, that she doesn't know if she wants to try to keep it together anymore. I'm willing to do whatever it takes. We haven't tried everything to mend our broken marriage, so I don't think that we should give up yet. Could someone PLEASE give me some advice on how to talk her into some sort of counseling!?!?! Thank you!