04-09-2011, 08:37 AM
Join Date: Feb 2011
| | Re: Me vs Friends
Sounds to me like a mixture of things here. Firstly, you and your hubby were not getting along all that great, so he has backed off and found an interest of his own to fill his time. He is on disability, not working, living in a new town and therefore bored out of his skull. Booze, buddies and bars are an easy and available entertainment.
If you read some of MEM's posts about "manning up" it includes backing off from your spouse to get them interested again, perhaps this is what is happening with you, you didn't care what he was doing, as long as he was focussing attention on you and what you wanted, now, he is focussing on himself, and it is pissing you off. Ask yourself something, do you provide for his needs, or is it him who was always providing yours?
If I have read this correctly, then your honest answer will be a negative on that one. It is time for you to pursue him perhaps, set up dates with him that make YOU, focus on HIS desires.
It may work, it may not, I may be totally wrong. But it is a textbook play from some of these boards from a man whose wife has no interest, getting her to be interested.....