I have been married to my husband for almost three years. We have a 2-year-old son. He has a good job about 1500 miles away from where I live. So we spent most of our married time away from each other. Last year he decided to come join me and our son and try to give it a shot at making a life together. However, he did not even try to look for a job while he was here, blaming on the economy for not having an "ideal" job. He never took our son out to public places except for this ONE playground that he is comfortable of going. He is anti-social and hates my friends. Our quality of life went down to the bottom, and we were both unhappy on most days. The worst thing that came out of this situation is that he started smoking again (after we have had numerous fights over it), lying about smoking, and even smoked in my car where I found ashes all over it. He also started ordering prescription drugs online and showings signs of being addicted to them.
Honestly the whole time that he was here, I wanted him to leave. Well, I wanted him to find a job (any job), not smoke, and not take those awful medicine.. but I am finding out that I am not the one to make those decisions. So then I wanted him to leave...I saw no future with us if he stayed that way. I saw my son being raised by an addict and be destroyed...
Now his old job needed him so he went away about a month ago. During this month, he only called once. I've been talking to his father about our situation, and I expressed to him that I did not want my husband to come back. So today, the news came that he will not be coming back this coming week. He will come get his belongings in about a month and leave for good.
At this moment I feel a lot of hurt for no good reasons. Are we really going to be finished? Just like this? It feels like I have not tried enough, but am I being unfair to say that the ball is in HIS court? I feel hurt but don't know why or what to do at this point. Anyone out there that could offer any insight and support?
Honestly the whole time that he was here, I wanted him to leave. Well, I wanted him to find a job (any job), not smoke, and not take those awful medicine.. but I am finding out that I am not the one to make those decisions. So then I wanted him to leave...I saw no future with us if he stayed that way. I saw my son being raised by an addict and be destroyed...
Now his old job needed him so he went away about a month ago. During this month, he only called once. I've been talking to his father about our situation, and I expressed to him that I did not want my husband to come back. So today, the news came that he will not be coming back this coming week. He will come get his belongings in about a month and leave for good.
At this moment I feel a lot of hurt for no good reasons. Are we really going to be finished? Just like this? It feels like I have not tried enough, but am I being unfair to say that the ball is in HIS court? I feel hurt but don't know why or what to do at this point. Anyone out there that could offer any insight and support?