12-05-2010, 06:19 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: Husband Changed Mind & Wants Kids After 4 Years of Marriage
Why are you so opposed to having kids? Understand, I am not criticizing you or saying you're wrong. But you need to figure out if your reason for not having kids is something that really matters in the big picture or if it's something that could be dealt with. For example, if you don't want kids because you don't want to change diapers, maybe you and hubby could agree he'll handle all the diapers and you'll handle the feeding.
If, however, your reason is a much bigger reason and one that there is no compromise on, no ability to get past or no desire to get past, then you have to accept that you two want very different things and therefore staying together would not be fair to either of you.
I know you love him and you want to be with him. Part of love, though, true love is that you want the other person to be happy...even if it's not with you. And if you really, honestly, without a doubt believe that you don't want kids and will never want kids, and he really, honestly, without a doubt believes that he does want kids, then the right thing to do is set each other free. And to do it before the resentment builds to ruin the good memories of each other that you do have.