We have been married for nearly 16 years. We have a couple kids. I have lost my love for her for almost 5 or 6 years. We have tried to work things out, but she is a boring person. she has no life. I am an outgoing person. Standing at the alter, I had doubts about marrying her. I don't want to hurt her and the kids, but I need a life too. counseling won't help, she doesn't take to change well. I do most of the duties around the house. I am just burned out. We have sex about once every 2 months. She just lays there, like always. My wife and I are nothing alike. I don't want to touch her anymore. I don't want to stay married, and I don't want to be a dead beat dad. What should I do?
So, you married her knowing she was a boring person and quiet different for you?! Or has the marriage grown stale over time? You know she may be thinking the same thing about you. People dear to us always deserve a chance. People and relationships aren't disposable. Please give marriage counseling and marriage/relationship books a try before throwing in the towel. Then it's fair to everyone.
I think I married her because I didn't think I could get anyone else. I know that is dumb, but it is true. I don't want to counsel. I just want to go about my everyday not married.
Well, I guess you should just be selfish since that's what YOU want. Get a divorce and be free? I'm somewhat puzzled by the reason for your post. You don't want advice. I assume you are looking for support, since you have made your decision.
You can leave her w/o becoming a dead beat dad. Dead beat dads are the ones that want to forget they were ever a dad (as well as in a relationship). Pay your child support, keep your visitation schedule and move out if that's what you want. But YOU'RE NOT GOING TO BE ANY HAPPIER!
Can anybody see this is an honest question? The guy just KNOWS with 16 years of experience that the couple doesnt work. I am in the same, 16 years, 2 kids. She always said it was my fault. I always said she was the fault. I corrected all she mentioned I was failing at (making more house work, stopping arguing that the couple doesnt work, stopping demanding sex at least twice a week, began praying, went to a couples christian course, went to meetings of couples, I got her breakfast at the bed, made swimming and got fit for a year, and as always, being a good father. But she didnt change her egypt mummy 9pm going to bed and sleep. Her life is just going to the office and then share with the kids and going to sleep at 9 pm. Nothing of couple sharing, of sharing social life with other couples, of having any lunch or dinner at any restaurant, or see a movie. The sex is worst, every 45 days- Im done- but I don`t want the kids to be unhappy, because they love me. But I am not happy and Ill move on.
Can anybody see this is an honest question? The guy just KNOWS with 16 years of experience that the couple doesnt work. I am in the same, 16 years, 2 kids. She always said it was my fault. I always said she was the fault. I corrected all she mentioned I was failing at (making more house work, stopping arguing that the couple doesnt work, stopping demanding sex at least twice a week, began praying, went to a couples christian course, went to meetings of couples, I got her breakfast at the bed, made swimming and got fit for a year, and as always, being a good father. But she didnt change her egypt mummy 9pm going to bed and sleep. Her life is just going to the office and then share with the kids and going to sleep at 9 pm. Nothing of couple sharing, of sharing social life with other couples, of having any lunch or dinner at any restaurant, or see a movie. The sex is worst, every 45 days- Im done- but I don`t want the kids to be unhappy, because they love me. But I am not happy and Ill move on.
Of course it's serious.
The answer it to do everything you can to get her on board with fixing the marriage. If she will not work on this with you then you have 2 choices.
1) grow and develop your life, do the things you want that make you happy. Your sex life will be minimal but if you choose this option, that's life.
2) get a divorce, be a good father to your childern (which includes paying child support if ordered), and move on with your personal life.
What else is there to say? You are the one who has to make these choices. No one here can make that choice for you.
I want to divorce my wife 
