Re: I feel like divorcing my wife after 20 years, what to do?
I do agree with Dennis. Here is a something I came across. It's a good read.
The grass is always greener where you water it.
I saw this today on a FB post a friend of mine posted. This struck me as so profound. It's the law of sowing and reaping. And how many times have we seen this come true in our own lives. How many wandering men have let first their eyes stray to other women, then, their minds, their thoughts and eventually their time and even their money.
How many foolish men leave the wives of their youths because they have started to dally around with a coworker or some other random individual or even pornography for that matter. Where you put your time, energy and affection, that's the path that you have the most invested in. That's the path that is going to be green and lush. So, when a foolish man....or woman for that matter....starts spending more time, attention or money elsewhere resulting in that relationship being or seeming so great, what do they expect. Of course the new woman is going to seem shinier and greener than the old one. The new woman has been well watered by you. They are happy because you are investing your time, energy and money there. So, of course, they treat you lovingly, admiringly even.
And that wife who is angry and bitter......she looks like a patch of brown grass. Because YOU NEGLECTED HER. You haven't watered her with your time, talents, energy, conversation, love making, friendship. Of course she is a parched brown patch of grass.
This is where the saying that the grass is greener where you water it takes the most shape. IF you choose to spend your time, energy, money, affection, strength, friendship with your spouse, it logically stands to reason that is the relationship that is going to flourish the most.
And if you have already neglected that patch of lawn and it is already brown, it may seem like an easier path to just up and leave because it is already so damaged, but if YOU caused that HOW do you think you can just up and move on to greener pastures knowing the devastation you caused somewhere else. At the end of the day YOU have to look yourself in the mirror. You know what YOU have done. And in those quiet moments, your own mind and heart will not let you rest.
It's just something to think about.