01-27-2011, 04:29 AM
Join Date: Feb 2010
| | Re: How many times to try before giving up
Originally Posted by dka
I think that the number of times is less important than the impact each time you try has. With each unsuccessful attempt I think resentment and hurt builds. My fear is that as you continue to try you may end up hurting one another so deeply that maintaining any respect for the other person is no longer an option. Only you will know when you have reached your breaking point and I do believe that often people give up way to soon, however, I think that it is very possible to try for too long too:S I realize that is not very helpful as we would all love for someone to say "if you try 18.7 times and it doesn't work than it never will", but being that probably won't happen, I think you really need to pay attention to the your feelings changing with each attempt.
LOL! More like 118.7! (no, I jest but only slightly...) It's definitely down to the effect each (failed or vaguely successful) attempt has. My OH says quite often he always hopes things will be better and they never are - but I think that's by way of an exaggeration. Itś definitely true that we have steps forward, backward, sideways and every which way and yet somewhere in my gut I feel itś worth plugging away. Or maybe itś low self esteem, a young child and desperation.