Last night, I journaled about 3 pages because I was feeling so restless, I didn't know what to do. I can't shake this feeling that something is missing or not right. I know that some will say to take control of my own happiness. I seem to be able to maintain closeness with my husband for a day or two, then I don't want to be around him. I know I'm pushing away, but the desire isn't there.
I thought once I returned to work, this feeling would go away, but it hasn't. I am so distracted by this restless feeling. I am so desperate and needy, but I am not going to my husband to fulfill these needs because I don't want to. Please don't say just to make up my mind and do it. I don't think that will work in this situation. I have committed to working on our marriage for a couple of months, yet one week into it, I am still looking for a way out.
Maybe, the key is to figuring out what's causing the restlessness. I am so bored with my life...I just want to step outside of it. I have a great husband and 2 sweet children, and I know this should make me happy. You might say that sex is the solution to our problem, but I don't feel this way. I think there's more to it than that.
I am a puzzle that is impossible to solve. Will I ever be happy and satisfied with my life? I am trying to return to my prayer life and find the faith to follow through on making my marriage work.
i can honestly say, you are not alone in how u feel. i have had days like you and so has my hubby.
tired of the marriage , tired of eachother, etc etc.
when my hubby and i feel like that. we give eachother more space. a few times hes gone over his mothers. in fact we miss eachother and the heart grows fonder bit.
we court eachother again - communication is better, sex and family life. we dont do it to disrupt our lives, we do it to enhance it.
the times when weve needed space are genuine and not done for the sake of it.
a few years ago i went to spain for a week with sis in law. had a great time, no kids or hubby.
im itching now for something new now, maybe a break away somewhere.
Everyone gets bored of the mundane. For me it was changing hobbies, fr the wife it meant going back to school. Everything in your life will tie into itself and you need all the puzzle pieces to see the big picture.
Last night, I journaled about 3 pages because I was feeling so restless, I didn't know what to do. I can't shake this feeling that something is missing or not right. I know that some will say to take control of my own happiness. I seem to be able to maintain closeness with my husband for a day or two, then I don't want to be around him. I know I'm pushing away, but the desire isn't there.
I thought once I returned to work, this feeling would go away, but it hasn't. I am so distracted by this restless feeling. I am so desperate and needy, but I am not going to my husband to fulfill these needs because I don't want to. Please don't say just to make up my mind and do it. I don't think that will work in this situation. I have committed to working on our marriage for a couple of months, yet one week into it, I am still looking for a way out.
Maybe, the key is to figuring out what's causing the restlessness. I am so bored with my life...I just want to step outside of it. I have a great husband and 2 sweet children, and I know this should make me happy. You might say that sex is the solution to our problem, but I don't feel this way. I think there's more to it than that.
I am a puzzle that is impossible to solve. Will I ever be happy and satisfied with my life? I am trying to return to my prayer life and find the faith to follow through on making my marriage work.
You can't run away from your problems. You have to know a little of why you are not happy. Do you feel over-worked and unappreciated? Hun, we all do at some point in our lives. Do you feel you don't have enough "YOU" time, because of work and the kids? If so, ask your hubsnad to watch the kids while you go out with the girls somewhere. If it's not enough alone time.. just you and your husband.. see if you can have someone to watch the kids for you, and you go out with your husband somewhere. Have a date night with him, just the two of you.
Justean- I'm sure you're right about the space thing...I'm just not sure how to make it happen. My husband gets offended if I don't want to spend time with him. He never seems to be able to get enough of me. I know this is just how he is...but I am not. I don't hold it against him really, but it's true I do need some space. This is an ongoing issue...something that has been going on for months. This isn't my first post about this situation. It sounds like you "take a break" on a pretty consistent basis. I would love to be able to do this.
I do try to do things for myself away from my family...book club, working out....but my husband makes comments that I don't want to be around him or the kids...jokingly of course, but I don't think he's joking. I know he feels like I don't give him enough attention. This has been a constant in our marriage. Again, I know others have offered suggestions to this before. We have been trying to make a point to have a date night, only recently...maybe this will help. All I know is I go through the day and night feeling like I just want to run away. Work is really crazy right now, but I had plenty of down time in the summer (even though the kids were around) because I'm a teacher.
Honey- to respond to your comment...I'm not really sure why I'm unhappy...I keep thinking it's because I'm not happy with my husband. People have made great suggestions to help with this...maybe I'm just not being proactive enough. Maybe this is my problem, and no one else is to blame....really not sure though.
Draconis-as you know from recent posts, I'm trying to find something to do to lessen this boredom. (the dance thing). I have been extremely tired adjusting to being back at school, so I haven't actively pursued anything else. I know I need to get back to the gym...it's been a couple of weeks. That may help. But, I still have this strong yearning to do SOMETHING. I really don't know what that something is, but I hate feeling this way.
Great idea ljtseng...I'm not quite that daring, but I'll keep trying to think of something. You go for it though! I just get so depressed sometimes with my situation, but I also realize that this could also just be my illness. It takes me on so many ups and downs. I think I'm just looking for something or someone to make me happy when I should be trying to make myself happy. It's nice to be able to come on here and whine occasionally though with little repercussions.
You're probably right, Brad...replacing my husband will probably not make me happier. However, if you look at our history, it seems like we've rarely been happy with one another. I'll take most of the blame for this because of my "crazy" issues. Regardless, I'm not making enough effort to make things better, and I am tired of fighting with him about the same old things. He would be better off without me. I can't seem to keep up my end of the bargain to improve our situation.
My husband doesn't understand why I am so tired all the time and he takes it personally. I don't pay enough attention to him. There are various reasons for this, one of them being that I don't want to be with him sometimes. The fatigue is a normal phase I go through with my illness, not to mention adjusting to my teaching job again. I just want to give up because I don't have the strength or motivation to do what has to be done. It doesn't seem like we can maintain a happy, balanced relationship.
My depression makes me apathetic...I just want to give up on everything. I'm strong enough to keep pushing forward, but I am only putting forth minimal effort. It's the best I can do right now. I am being completely honest.
My depression makes me apathetic...I just want to give up on everything. I'm strong enough to keep pushing forward, but I am only putting forth minimal effort. It's the best I can do right now.
I notice a lot of negative self talk. Realize that thoughts like this lead to feelings (bad). Start doing things that lead to a higher self worth. Hobbies, interests etc.
And start talking about yourself in a healthier manner.
I am so bored...I want out! Help!
Re: I am so bored...I want out! Help!
