02-28-2011, 01:18 PM
Join Date: Feb 2011
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Newbie here. I have been married 6 years. My wife and I have one child, a son who is a toddler. Seems like since our son was born that after caring for him I have no more love, patience, or compassion for my wife. I always wanted children but now I do not know if I am well suited to care for a wife and a child at the same time. Recently she has noticed this and asks me why I am acting/treating her the way that I am (withdrawn, short, etc.). I donít have an answer and/or am too scared to tell her the truth.
I am an adventurous, outdoor person. Obviously, since our son came along I have not been able to do as many of things that I love (camping, hiking, skiing, etc.) and I feel trapped. I feel like I was never able to fulfill many of my dreams. I feel that if we were separated that I would be able to do the things I love more regularly and without feeling guilty from leaving my wife and son behind. Others time I just feel like a selfish jerk for wanting to spend time away from family. I just do not seek to be happy unless I am pursuing fun.
I also find myself talking and flirting with other ladies I meet at the bar when I occasionally go out with buddies. I donít know if I seeking that excitement which comes with meeting a new person or if I am just trying to boost my own confidence as I also struggle with depression.
Should we seek counseling or even a separation so that I can understand how much we need/love one another? Funny how I am the one seeking advice when my wife and son are the victims.