Originally Posted by Freak On a Leash View Post
Sounds like everyone is trying to prove a point or teach this woman a lesson. That's all fine and dandy but what do YOU want? Ok, so let her family take her in and deal with her if that's what THEY want.
If the woman wants a divorce so badly do you really want to be with her? Isn't that a recipe for disaster?
Especially since part of you likes being on your own.
You'll get over being alone if that is what you truly want. There's something to be said for peace and contentment. My advice? Make yourself happy and do what what's good for you.
Since she only knows this path in life, she will never know a better way of life. She will not let go of the past, she has to constantly live in misery. I doubt that she even knows what she want out of life.
I am afraid for her kids and our daughter. They see what she is doing so they will think that this will be "normal" behavior. I know that these girls of hers will fail in their relationships too, for their mother is the same as their grand mother and their aunts. I have already witnesses some of the same traits in two of her girls as their mother. I was hoping to break that cycle, this was what her family wanted, someone who could provide stability in their life. I am afraid that the next guy she meets will end up the same way as me and her two last ex's, she has developed quite the pattern. Maybe she will recognize this before it is too late.
One of my biggest concerns is about the safety of the kids. She had severe post-partum depression back in 1999, after the birth of her fourth girl. She made a frantic call to her father and step-mother, telling them to come get her four girls before she drowned them in the bath tub. This was not her only incident. This also happened after the birth of her first girl back in 1994. Her parents had to take away her daughter because of certain "issues".
I was set out on a mission to save her from herself and her self-destructive behaviors, but I am realizing that I am not the one capable, or qualified, to do that. She is in need of some serious professional help. I told our Bishop, and my therapist that she needed someone a little more specialized.
I will let go of her, but I will fight her on some of the personal property. She wants to keep the old 1965 Jeep, all of the power tools including the drill press, table saw, grinders, and all other hand and power tools. She also wants to keep all of the lawn and riding mowers, the rototiller, and all other yard power equipment. Her brother has no idea as to why she wants to keep them, other than for keeping control of my livelihood. She is losing control of part of her world, so I feel that she is grasping for anything that she can keep a hold of.
I will decide to follow through with the divorce, but I will not go down without a fight. I love her still, and I forgive her for everything that she has done, but I will no longer remain dangling at the end of the rope like a carrot being led on by false hopes. I will let her family and friends deal with her. Maybe someday, they will be able to "wake her up" to reality, before it bites her in the butt and takes a chunk of hide off.