Still in Love or just scared to move on?
I have been with my husband for over 4 years now. Married for one and a half of those.
Hes emotionally unavailable, he NEVER compliments me or is grateful for all I do for him. We have all but stopped having sex. ( once in the last 4 months) He drinks nightly simple to get drunk, and goes to the bar almost every night also. ( I drink daily too but not to his extent by far). He wiped us out of most our money ( THE BAR ). Hes negative alot. In the past he has picked on my weight ( Im a whopping 155 lbs)Says he wont be married to a fat chick. Yes, in those words.
I do everything for him and I mean everything. I enjoy taking care of the man I love, however it hurts soooooo much to get nothing in return. No compromise, never asks how I feel, if Im happy. It's torture sometimes. We have been over this 40 times...I tell him Im not happy, I need more from him, I need LOVE above all. HE just says he loves me, and sweeps it all under his big fat rug.
Ok, now some good. We get along great when we are both sober. We have alot in common. We love to fish, go to the cabin, the outdoors, we are both only children, and happily agree on not having any ourselves. We both work hard and have full time jobs. Honestly, the last 4 years I have simply ADORED him. Maybe it was the challenge he always brought by never completely "setteling down" and giving up his bachelor ways.I love him.
I feel I deserve so much more though. We are like roomates. I told him I wanted a seperation, but I havent found a place yet to move to ( he refuses to leave). Says he doesnt want me to go. I just dont know what to do anymore. This is my second marriage, and its much hared leaving then my previous one and I was with that man for 15 years.
Last edited by Wifenotamom; 03-10-2011 at 04:31 PM.
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