03-17-2011, 09:27 AM
Join Date: Mar 2011
| | Not a fun place to be
I am 30 and have been with my H 6.5 years, married 4.5. We don't have kids and don't own anything together. I am a full-time student and he also has a full-time job. He is a great guy, smart, silly, caring, etc. However, for the past 3 years or so, I have not been very happy. I don't feel attracted to him. I don't want to have sex, kiss, or have physical contact with him. He feels like my best friend and roommate, but that is about it. He has dreams of the future that are quite different than mine, but he complies to what I want - and I hate that. I don't want someone to tailor their future to mine, and then later I get blamed for it not being what they want.
So, I recently expressed these feelings and that maybe we should separate to figure things out.
I know it is selfish, but we are so young and I don't want myself or him to be in an unhappy relationship, just to find out that 10 years from now we are still unhappy. Life is too short. Any suggestions?