I have been married for 8 yrs. Raised my husband 2 kids from his first marriage to a bipolar wife. One in college other goes next fall. Been a rough road and kids have no respect for me except in front of father and they even slip up then, he ignores. Anyhow last week he told me he wants a divorce and doesn't want to be married anymore. Says he felt this way thru the whole marriage and he is at a point in his life he wants to be alone, he thinks. I did get him to agree to go for counseling after enough begging. Do I sit it out and wait for counseling? I feel sick to my stomache every minute of the day . I truly believe he loves me and there is no one else, even joint friends say so. So why kill me like this? What can I say or do to at least get the knot out of my gut? I know someone here has to have gone thru the same thing, I just need advice and help. I tried to make a list of things I love about him and it was empty. Is it just the hurt that is making me feel this way?