I am so abosolutely confused....
My H has been going for IC since Monday last week, and we have seen our MC several times. I was so ready to go when this all started.
Now I feel like he MAY BE capable of change. Or is it all a ploy to get me to stay.
He has been diagnosed as depressed with mild anxiety. He knows that he has been Passive/Agressive in our relationship.
He says sorry over and over and over....
Yesterday at our appointment, I read him a 3 page letter that I had written, telling him of all the hurt and grieving I am doing for the lost years...how I feel about his not being close with our children...telling him that I permitted him to act like a4 yr old by forgiving him when he had his tantrums. BUT I would no longer forgive that, I cannot!
He wrote a letter also stating that he knew he'd acted like a child, his behaviors are unacceptable.
He says that part of him is gone.
He has since "friended" our oldest son on FB, and even begun to help with homework and offer advice when our son is down.
I see some changes, but I felt like I was ready to go it on my own...
We had discussed him moving out, so I could have some space...but he is reluctant to spend the money to be in someone elses space (he would rent a room as a whole apt. would be too much $$$) He wants to stay in the same house...
He asks for hugs and has tried a few times for little kisses.
I am sooo confused and lost...I don't really have anyone to turn to.
Someone, PLEASE OFFER SOME ADVICE!!!!!!