Im desperate for support and advice. I'll try and keep this as short as possible.
Ive been married 18months and with my hubby for just under 4yrs. (Im 25, he is 27). The last year has been a little stale, and 3 weeks ago things came to ahead when I found a flirty message on his facebook account. I confronted him immediately, and he was so angry. He stormed out the house, when he came back that night, he was devastated. He said he was just flirting but it meant nothing. I believe him. Please dont talk to me if you're just going to say he is cheating on me, I dont need to hear that. I have accepted the fact that he may have turned to this girl at work because he was not getting what he needed at home from me. I have been having a rough time at work and have been bringing my bad moods home with me. He said I have lost sight of who I am, and am not the bright bubbly person he fell in love with. He said he tried to fix me, but when it didnt work, he gave up trying and now has no energy left to try again.
He has told me several times that he is no longer in love with me, and doesnt want to be here. Its absolutely killing me. I have tried to respect his need for space - only replying to his texts/calls. We are still in our home together, sleeping seperately, but we eat dinner together and watch TV together. He said its important we keep talking and he is open and honest about his feelings. I am as well, but its so hard to try and be positive and hide my tears when my whole world is crumbling
He says he is going to move out in July when our rental contract is up, but wants us to live together until then. I have stayed away the past 2 weekends, and when Im gone he has contacted me via text or phonecall everyday. I feel like he still cares because the 2 times I've cried infront of him, he has cuddled me and tried to comfort me. He also says that he wants us to remain friends and we need to support each other through this situation. He moved 300miles to be with me when we met, and he says Im all he has here as he doesnt want to move to his family home.
He says that he is having a "wobble" and is sorry for dragging me along with him. He doesnt know what he wants from his life / career and feels by being alone he will be able to regain control and find himself. He is such a strongwilled person who wants to succeed at everything. When I asked him if he felt he had failed at our marriage, he began to cry and it broke my heart all over again.
I know no one can make this right, but I'm so frightened. I've never felt so sure that splitting up would be wrong. I love this man with all my heart body and soul. We have both admitted we have a part to play in this, and neither one of us blames the other. We dont argue, never have and never will. I am just so lost, he wont see a councillor, doesnt want to try and fix things (he said everything breaks for a reason).
What can I do in the 8 weeks I have with him before he leaves me? I honestly dont believe he feels nothing for me because if he didnt, why would he text me, still be here and want to talk to me? PLEASE HELP ME TRY AND SAVE MY MARRIAGE