05-21-2011, 01:07 AM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Husband just wants to be alone to watch his shows on the computer, etc.
I really need some help. My husband and I have been together since June 2006, and got married in September 2009. For the first 2 years of our relationship it was sold, but I got really sick in 2008. We still went ahead on the marriage even though I wanted to wait another 2 years, but he said we been through enough that we could manage anything. (Famous last words I guess). After two months of being married I was diagnosed with CRPS/RSD, it's a pain disorder that rapidly got worst after a foot surgery to remove a broken bone that had been there for 6 years.
Unfortunately ever since then I had to rely on my husband for everything; driving, helping me up the stairs, getting to my doctors visits, going to all my nerve blocking surgeries. Now I have noticed that he seems distant that he just really doesn't want to be near me anymore. He gets mad when I ask him to do something that he promised to do weeks ago. He gets mad when I give him a list of things I need. Plus all he wants to do is watch tv in his man cave (yes, I gave him a man cave for being there for me) and shuts me out. Sometimes I don't even see him anymore, know that I am able to drive (thanks to the handicap driving sticks).
I have asked him several times if he wants to talk but he just yells at me. Anytime I tell him that I need something he rolls his eyes and starts an argument stating I wanted to start one. I am so unhappy and depressed all the time. I really need my husband to be there sometime in my life and be supportive, but that's not happening at all. I have been looking at separating from him and moving back with my folks or a friend, but I can't get myself to do it. But the emotional abuse of him not being there and always being angry is putting me on a path that I can't deal with anymore. Can anyone give me advice on maybe getting him to talk or should I be packing my bags, which I really don't want to do.