Re: She Wants The House
I guess it is different in our situation. We have no issues evenly splitting up our stuff - value is not important to us. It was really easy, I keep our bedroom, dining room, entertainment room, tools, etc. She keeps the formal living room, two other bedrooms, kitchen appliances, etc. So far, we have not had a single disagreement over splitting up property. Are we odd couple out on this one? I don't know. We have not, nor plan to talk to a lawyer. We will divide our belongings, divide our finances, pay out our bills then try to move on. I hope we don't have the court getting in our way but I don't think we will. This is not to say that I am saying that divorcing is easy - it isn't, it's devistating. But I guess with respect to property, we are pretty even keel level headed on it.
BTW, Helicon, I would suspect, and I am no lawyer, that the 20k your parents gave you would depend on if it was a gift or an agreement to pay back. If it was a gift, for example, a wedding gift, then half of that would be hers in a community property state where everything is 50/50. So, if you both agreed to pay back the 20k 10 years ago, then she could be forced to pay that. Again, I don't know but that sounds like what a court might do - and, I suspect they would want proof that it was a loan if both of you do not agree that it was a loan. My stbxw and I will have to sell our house because we have no other choice in order to eliminate debt (most of it student loans for our kids). So maybe we are in a completely different situation because we both have great jobs and make about the same income. I would have preferred to buy her half out and stay there but no way I can do that and keep the debt we have, even if we divide it.