06-10-2011, 08:30 AM
Join Date: Feb 2011
| | Be careful what you wish for...Has he already started the process?
My husband threatened to leave me several times this week. Things have been bad for a really long time, but this is a new development. He came in after I was in bed and he sent me an email out of his frustration instead of waking me up.
In it he said some of these things: "You're making it look like you have something to hide. are you trying to hide something from me? You may want to reconsider that strategy. If I want to know anything about you, I'll find out. Trust me. I can find out what you're up to, and there is much more I could do than quietly observe. That's a promise. If you feel like spending time with someone else. Fine. Do what you want. But, you won't be doing it behind my back. And I'll document everything you do. Just for the record. I'm paying attention to you. You can either get it together and help me make this relationship work, or you can find your own way. But I'm not about to be played like a chump. I'm not going to continue to be disrespected in my home. I'm not going to continue to put up with this sorry ass relationship. Things need to change.
I'm not going to continue to let you treat me like ****. I will make things better for us, or I'll make things better for me. Don't say I never told you."
The way I see it, he sent this because I started acting like him. He told me to get a life and stop focusing on him so much. So I did. I started practicing detachment, getting to know what I like again, and doing those things. Sometimes he was included, but many times he was not. So that was his response.
I asked several people about this language and they said it sounds like he's setting me up to divorce me and leave me with nothing. His best friends wife left because there was another man involved so he's paranoid about that. I've been through hell and back with him (see previous posts) and he's ready to throw me out now that he's got a nice job. He didn't even come home until this morning, but I'm the one on the leash now?
I can't believe this. If anyone has any advice, I'd love to hear it.