06-14-2011, 09:54 AM
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Atlanta, GA
| | Tired of Being Sick and Tired
I have warned my husband many times that heís going to lose me. I have even been nice enough to tell him why heís going to lose me (you know, on the off chance that he actually realizes the seriousness of the situation and decides that heís going to do something to prevent the loss of the best thing that ever happened to him). He is a liar. He is disrespectful and he craves attention. All of these things seem to come into play when it comes to his dealings with other women, his ex-girlfriends in particular. He will do whatever he can to gain their sympathy and their attention, even it requires being disrespectful to me, allowing them to be disrespectful towards me, telling them half the truth, or just flat out lying about me to make me look bad and him look like a Saint. (I already have suspicions about mentality of these women because they havenít been smart enough to realize that he hasnít left yet, so thereís got to be more to the story than what heís saying, but we know how some women areÖ)
I canít talk to him because what I say doesnít seem to matter. I canít send him emails because he will go so far as to forward my emails to his ex, with the addition of a comment or two from him to make sure that I look bad. Iím used to dealing with men who are proud of the women they have chosen to be with, and they want others to know that they have chosen wisely. I have never had to deal with someone who has so little respect for me that he will constantly put me down to others just for attention. (The fact that he tries to belittle the significance of his exes in his life does not help. He apparently thinks Iím not smart enough to pay attention and notice that he always changes his excuses that he ďneedsĒ to keep them involved in his life. He has no problems running to them for guidance, support and attention Ė maybe they can help him get through our impending divorce.)
I think Iíve been fair and given him ample opportunities to change his ways, but Iím beginning to think that this issue will be ongoing and I will never be happy. I speak with my divorce attorney every few weeks, and he says that eventually Iíll get sick and tired of being sick and tired and the only thing he needs to enter on the paperwork at this point is the date and we can file. Am I asking too much of him to want him to respect me? To tell me the truth? And to get rid of these miscellaneous women in his life? It seems like my warnings that Iím getting fed up fall on deaf ears. I guess he just takes it for granted that I wonít end things. Respect and honesty are big things to me, and Iím just crazy enough to think that I deserve both.