06-14-2011, 02:12 PM
Join Date: Jun 2011
| | Why is there positive changes when you're halfway out the door??
I've been together with my husband for 11 years - married for half of that. We have two kids together.
We have always had battles and struggles.. I stayed at home when we had kids and he wanted to support the family. Though he refused to "share" his money and if I need gas for the car or to go get milk or take kids to any activities, I had to check in with him and ask for money. The entire time! When I said I wanted to split, he finally gave me some "allowence".
So over the year, of being fed up with not being heard, respected or validated from him, I am done. I have no more to give. I gave up cooking, cleaning etc. I have been depressed for quite some time but I am able to be loving and caring and a great mom to my kids.
I have communicated with H on this topic and it has been ongoing for a year + now. I won't go into details this will get way to long!
BUT I have a problem. He won't give up. He claims he is here now to try to be a part of our family. He is FINALLY doing stuff around the house, trying to be interested in me, desperate to make this work. He has been "trying "for a couple months and I KNOW it's not working. It's nice but deep down, I know it's done. He threatens when is say our relationship isn't working by saying I need to go find a full time job and move out bc he wants it to work so he's not leaving or giving up. As soon as he thinks we are good - he goes back into his old ways and then I snap again and he tries again. It's BS!
I'm going through a very angry stage and I stll want to take care of my kids until they are in school.
But I need my freedom and space which I have never gotten from him.
What do I do??