06-17-2011, 10:23 AM
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: upstate NY
| | Re: In-Laws and Separation
I had this worry, ultimately it proved to be right.
They made it a point to show up anytime I went back to the old apartment to do anything, ignore any of my concerns about stbx's drug usage, and proceed to spread lies and hate about me.
They pushed for divorce when hubs and I were going to actually work on things, they made me unwelcomed in their home, and they fully supported him using me and stealing from me, and actually bragged about it.
I remember one of our last fights, it was after the stbx ripped me apart, threw a fit at me, called me the dirty C word, and then stormed off to the bar, proceeded to get into a fight and be hospitalized. Then call me the next day and lie about what happened.
I remember saying "If he wants sympathy do not let him walk through my door" because exFIL had told me he started the fight. The conversation turned into how i was supposed to "help" him and tell all his friend what to and what not to do with him recreationally and how wrong I was for being angry and taking that stand point and everything else. I will never forget the look on his face when he brought stbx home either.
IT is still my "fault" he ended up in the hospital that night, to this day. Because I am such a horrid person.
Forget the In-laws. They will do what they want, and they will paint you as the enemy if they need. That is their choice, and once you leave they are not your concern any further. Ive had to delete them even from my facebook, because i was being watched and fights/drama were being started on my page and with stbx. Not my concern, not my problem anymore, and certainly not yours either. Let them do whatever makes them feel important.