How did your kids handle it?
I have been lurking for about a week on and off, but I haven't seen any posts on how your children reacted to the separation/divorce and secondarily how you handled it.
Here's my low down (just the facts):
Married 17 years with two girls, 16 and 13. We had a typical marriage for the most part, some turbulence, but lots of good times as well. Then 4 years ago, I found out my W had an EA/PA for about a month. It then brought back all of the memories of her cheating on me twice before we married (PA both times). She has been remorseful since D-Day. After the affair, I read many self-help books and the common recommendation was not to over-react and divorce out of anger. I should give it at least two years. It has now been four years. My kids do not know about the affair and for the record, I was completely faithful in our marriage. Anyway, working with my therapist for the past six months, I have come to conclude that I want a divorce.
For the most part, we have a tranquil household. The wife and I occasionally fight, but the kids are well adjusted academically and socially. Both my wife and I have a tight bond with them. The reason I held off on divorce these years was my concern for the kids.
How did your kids handle it when you told them about separation/divorce. Thanks for sharing.