Re: I love my wife and want our marriage to work but is that enough
Sorry your here.
It is impossible to work on a marriage when the spouse is being influences by some one else. The dynamic are such that as long as your wife continues to step out of the marriage...even though the intend is there she is not practicing the primary rule of being connected to her spouse. She is only partially connected, the other half of her life is somewere other then her marriage.
Get it, its called 100% commited, again the intent is there but no real effort form your wife.
Go to marriage builder.com there is help.
Again all the counseling in the world won't work when a commitment isn't truely there. She can go every day, 100 times a day, but as long as that other influence is there its worthless.
Its called NC (no contact) until she completely stops all contact with these men she will always be influenced and the dynamics of a real marriage will be effected.
Look up "how to fight an affair" Affair care .com...you will need to get her out of the fog of the affairs for the both of you to repair this thing
You can't control her but for now you can control how you behave and what you will tolorate. also look into the "180"