Re: Dont want to divorce but don't see things getting better
Every time you threaten to leave because of the way he treats you, but you end up staying, you're giving him permission to keep treating you that way because he knows it's just an idle threat on your part. It goes back to the whole "Never cry wolf" story... the more it happens, the more it'll just keep turning into a vicious cycle. If you threaten to leave, you HAVE TO MEAN IT, and actually be willing to go through with it.
He is abusive toward you, no doubt about it. I would serious look at going to stay with your family for a while, so that the next time you say you'll leave, you actually do it. Hopefully it might be enough to knock some sense and respect into him.