Re: how do i deal?
He is most definately involved with her, in same way. He is just trying to 'normalise' it. You want to believe him, (aswe all do), so try to give him the benefit of the doubt. My husband has blatantly lied to me agin, and yet again I wanted tobelieve him, but again he was guilty. I have now kicked him out.
Can you do marriage counselling before he gets deployed, how long before he goes, and how is he away. it will be awful if he goes with unanswered questions. On the other hand many of us, myself included have many unanswered question. I have been doing minimal contact for 8 weeks, just to look after myself. Husband refused MC.
Do you get support fromthe military forthings like this?
Anyhow,I think you must tackle this, it cannot just be forgotten. Take care, let us know.