08-05-2011, 02:53 PM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Re: How should I handle this?
I've just been through something very similar to this. My H even went to MC with me but he was just bs'ing his way through it. I let him keep me confused for a long time.
Do you want to know what's going on, or do you just want things to change? Do you need to know what's going on in order to know whether to make changes?
Does he call you crazy or paranoid? Does he resent you for the "drama" you're creating? Does he resent intrusions on his "privacy"? Those can be signs he's cheating.
If you just want things to change, do the 180 that is often suggested through this forum and disengage emotionally from him.
If you aren't sure, start going through his phone. Look at his phone bill if you can. Find out who he's texting. Do whatever you need to do to get to the bottom of it. Hire a PI, install a keystroke logger, whatever. I am not a snooper by nature either but when your instincts tell you something isn't right, listen and act to protect yourself.