08-14-2011, 12:25 AM
Join Date: Mar 2011
| | Re: Can I ever hope to be intimate again?
Originally Posted by 3littleangelsmom
Not until I hit deep depression and started seeing a therapist did it come out that my husband has also sexually abused me in different ways over the years that started before we got married. Partly one of he reasons I felt I HAD to marry him. ( alon with a host of other reasons) we have never had a healthy intimate life and even when we do engage, I would go into the bathroom and cry after. I really thought something was wrong with me, but I know am coming to grips with reality. I can't look at him , don't want him to touch me, can't even hug him. I don't k iw that I will ever be able to be intimate with him again. Is this too far gone? Will I ever be able to get past this to have a healthy intimate relationship? He says time, forgiveness, and compassion will heal us.
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3littleangelsmom....don't mean to get personal..was your husband the only one that abused you? did you discover that you were molested as a child?
My story is similar, I was molested as a child and my husband had put in hidden camera, sex issues, etc. Promised he wouldn't do it again...he did. Now I know its time to leave. I nned to be comfortable in my own home. Everyone deserves that...
If your relationship will never be healthy, why stay? I had my ahah moment. Hopefully you will realize you deserve PEACE..sooner than I did.