So where to start. Married 23 years , 3 kids with a 14 year old daughter that lives with me most of the time. I am a typical hard working, loyal Mr Nice Guys (not perfect of course but did not deserve this). Wife informed me that she was done with the marriage (to pursue another love interest) and she moved out several months ago. We moved her into an apartment where I have given her enough rental income to get by the next year while we sort out the separation and divorce proceedings. I plan on keeping the marital home and having my daughter stay with me during the week and visit the wife on weekends which has been the case so far.
Never though my marriage would fall apart so quickly and under these circumstances. She was the classic "grew up in a Christian home, seemingly had a strong moral compass. Met this OM at a church function of all places but I guess that type of thing can happen anywhere
Obviously the first month was hell (lost appetite, weight, trouble sleeping but slowly coming around and realizing that I could never take her back even if she did a 180 and changed her mind.
Anyways just thought I would post and discuss with others that have gone through the same and what I can expect (emotionally and otherwise) over the next while. I have certainly gone from disbelief, despair, thinking I can't start over at age 45 to acceptance (slowly) and realizing that the damage that was done and how it was done is irreparable from my POV that I have no choice to move on...whatever that looks like
Never though my marriage would fall apart so quickly and under these circumstances. She was the classic "grew up in a Christian home, seemingly had a strong moral compass. Met this OM at a church function of all places but I guess that type of thing can happen anywhere
Obviously the first month was hell (lost appetite, weight, trouble sleeping but slowly coming around and realizing that I could never take her back even if she did a 180 and changed her mind.
Anyways just thought I would post and discuss with others that have gone through the same and what I can expect (emotionally and otherwise) over the next while. I have certainly gone from disbelief, despair, thinking I can't start over at age 45 to acceptance (slowly) and realizing that the damage that was done and how it was done is irreparable from my POV that I have no choice to move on...whatever that looks like