Instead of just walking away 6 months ago, my husband said we'd get a "do-over" since our blended family situation was so hectic and took a toll ON US. We both agreed we really loved each other and just rushed into things, killing our marriage basically. Well, after I hear him say for 6 months, "I need more time", "I'm sure I'll come back", "You work on you, I'll work on me", "I don't want the divorce RIGHT NOW", "One day I want one thing, the next I want something else", etc., he has now thrown in the towel. My eyes have been swollen from crying for 6 months. I have made all of the changes necessary to fix me (counseling, self reflection, etc) and he's even said I've done everything "perfectly" and he knows I've changed. Here's the catch now he says he likes calling all the shots and not having to worry about another person. Not having to worry about birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's day, romance. He says he's realized how jealous he is over me and how much he cannot stand it. He says he didn't relaize how bad he felt in our marriage until he was on his own and had something to compare it to. Says even if we divorce now, maybe when he comes out of this he'll come back. Ya right!! HE COULD HAVE TOLD ME THAT 6 MONTHS AGO!!
So be careful when you consider letting your spouse go. Freedom is apparently more important than marriage vows to some and they WON'T come back no matter what you do! Stay together in the house and try to work things out. Asking him to move out was the worst mistake I could have made. Might as well have just filed the papers the day he left.
I wonder how many couples ever survive a physical separation??
So be careful when you consider letting your spouse go. Freedom is apparently more important than marriage vows to some and they WON'T come back no matter what you do! Stay together in the house and try to work things out. Asking him to move out was the worst mistake I could have made. Might as well have just filed the papers the day he left.
I wonder how many couples ever survive a physical separation??