hello been a lurker in here... I am 40 yrs old and my husband is 42
he is the old school type where a woman is supposed to cook and clean sort of guy.Well I never really liked cooking but I do it and i clean the house like 3 times per week,I work Tues 6 hrs, thu-saturday all day 8 hrs and 10 or better on Sat.
I have a hard time wanting to stand in the kitchen chopping and cooking for long periods(makes me anxious) The other day he planned this meal which involved stewing partridge in the crock,then you take the birds apart and put them into a casserole.He told me to get them in the crock and he would help do the rest.So i do this ,worked came home and we were sitting there and i said," its almost 6 what should we do with the birds?"
He says ,"well go ahead and strip them ". He tells me he is busy.I say well ok what to do with the rest he shoves the cookbook at me and says there is the directions.I say nothing ,but i am mad as he wanted this said he was going to help and now its all on me and it involves chopping sautee'ing and putting together.
I do all of this .He gets in at 8:40 its done and I say thanks for the help.His reply is cooking is a woman's job. and goes on to say gee how hard is it to put a casserole together!It would have been ok if i had known I was doing all of this or I had planned better ahead.
He says I am just mad cause i had to do my job.I actually think he did it on purpose. He has known since he met me i hate cooking no secret.So he goes on to say if i asked you to make breaded steak or something that was not easy you would b*tch
I reply i would do it but not be happy and singing a song.To this he replies"you aren't my kind of woman".I ask what does that mean... he just says this is stuff I am filing away and walks out.
This from a man who never takes me out says gee the house looks nice,but will complain if it looks bad,downplay's my job like oh wow you work like4 days per week,compares me to his friend's wives his mother, my sister and anyone else who he can think of.
My oil was in my car for 12,000 miles i asked him for 6 mos he said buy the stuff so i did and it sat there til i told him he will buy me a new car if it blows up, or i will take it to jiffy lube he said no they will strip my plug.. so he finally does it 3 days ago.. then like 1 hr later says "thanks for changing my oil" all sarcastic like.. So I say thanks but I felt like slapping him( im bad i know). Sorry for the long winded rant I just wonder if he is a tad selfish and wonder if I wanna be here in 30 yrs