I have an 11 month old son and a fiance that (if id listened to my gut) lied to me about his job/ life. He lied for 1 year. Then when I got pregant he still didn't tell me the truth. H e had plenty of opportunity to tell me, to be honest.
He said he was a detective for 13 years. And things did seem right. Because when I moved to be with him in the same city he suddenly was "forced to retire" due to an unfortunate situation (like the movies-cop doesn't follow procedure then get the can).
Its all a huge lie. On top of it he never graduated college as he said, he failed out of the police academy and he looked me in the eye and has lied from our first date, until now up to our son's first birthday. He even borrowed a friends badge, and took photos with his friends uniform on to fool me becuase at 3 months pregenant I threatened to leave him if he didn't show me proof. I checked out his record/stories and it was all fake. I just found out 2 days ago. I am frozen. I can hardly react. I always knew something was wrong but I didn't do the tiny extra step to confirm my suspicions. I confronted him, he lied for 15 minutes, then boom. He tells me everything. He had to lie at hi job post where I meet him. And so as we began talking he fell into the lie... and I though it was so great. I braqgged to everyone, told him how great he was, a hero. He was afraid of telling me the truth thinking Id leave him. So he kept up this horrible lie all this time. And especially when I became pregnant. I feel so decived. Do I leave or stay? I think I will really need some good therapy after this. I'm broken. And to think I could have stopped this all with one phone call to confirm his employment. I cringe.
He said he was a detective for 13 years. And things did seem right. Because when I moved to be with him in the same city he suddenly was "forced to retire" due to an unfortunate situation (like the movies-cop doesn't follow procedure then get the can).
Its all a huge lie. On top of it he never graduated college as he said, he failed out of the police academy and he looked me in the eye and has lied from our first date, until now up to our son's first birthday. He even borrowed a friends badge, and took photos with his friends uniform on to fool me becuase at 3 months pregenant I threatened to leave him if he didn't show me proof. I checked out his record/stories and it was all fake. I just found out 2 days ago. I am frozen. I can hardly react. I always knew something was wrong but I didn't do the tiny extra step to confirm my suspicions. I confronted him, he lied for 15 minutes, then boom. He tells me everything. He had to lie at hi job post where I meet him. And so as we began talking he fell into the lie... and I though it was so great. I braqgged to everyone, told him how great he was, a hero. He was afraid of telling me the truth thinking Id leave him. So he kept up this horrible lie all this time. And especially when I became pregnant. I feel so decived. Do I leave or stay? I think I will really need some good therapy after this. I'm broken. And to think I could have stopped this all with one phone call to confirm his employment. I cringe.