Had enough balme thrown at me

hardtime · 09-15-2011, 08:17 PM

Thanks all for the input. I WILL not live in an OPEN marriage any longer. I told her tonight that it is me or the other man and if she could not decide then I would decide for her and I will go file.
She didn't take this very well. My ears were very sore after about 20 mins of it is your fault, you pushed me away, the finances, etc, etc, etc. Then tells me that my 2 step daughters are going to despise me because I am the mean one and all she has been was nice. I replied that if you could have only commited to NC then I would not of had to come to this choice. AGAIN I WILL NOT LIVE IN AN OPEN MARRIAGE.

Seeing lawyer tomorrow at 2:30.

joe kidd · 09-15-2011, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by hardtime

Thanks all for the input. I WILL not live in an OPEN marriage any longer. I told her tonight that it is me or the other man and if she could not decide then I would decide for her and I will go file.
She didn't take this very well. My ears were very sore after about 20 mins of it is your fault, you pushed me away, the finances, etc, etc, etc. Then tells me that my 2 step daughters are going to despise me because I am the mean one and all she has been was nice. I replied that if you could have only commited to NC then I would not of had to come to this choice. AGAIN I WILL NOT LIVE IN AN OPEN MARRIAGE.

Seeing lawyer tomorrow at 2:30.

Good for you. You shouldn't have to live in an open marriage. You have given her more than enough time.

Jellybeans · 09-15-2011, 08:44 PM

I agree

F-102 · 09-15-2011, 09:50 PM

Good luck with the lawyer. She is justifying her affair by blaming it all on you, but you aren't biting. Good Job!

RoseRed · 09-15-2011, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by hardtime

Thanks all for the input. I WILL not live in an OPEN marriage any longer. I told her tonight that it is me or the other man and if she could not decide then I would decide for her and I will go file.
She didn't take this very well. My ears were very sore after about 20 mins of it is your fault, you pushed me away, the finances, etc, etc, etc. Then tells me that my 2 step daughters are going to despise me because I am the mean one and all she has been was nice. I replied that if you could have only commited to NC then I would not of had to come to this choice. AGAIN I WILL NOT LIVE IN AN OPEN MARRIAGE.

Seeing lawyer tomorrow at 2:30.

You have made your choice and your ultimatum... and she has made hers... and of course the predicted outcome.... both heels dug in even deeper... even more anger, hurt, spite and dispair... and even more pain to come...

what a shame...

be strong... have faith...

may you find peace....

Entropy3000 · 09-15-2011, 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by hardtime

Thanks all for the input. I WILL not live in an OPEN marriage any longer. I told her tonight that it is me or the other man and if she could not decide then I would decide for her and I will go file.
She didn't take this very well. My ears were very sore after about 20 mins of it is your fault, you pushed me away, the finances, etc, etc, etc. Then tells me that my 2 step daughters are going to despise me because I am the mean one and all she has been was nice. I replied that if you could have only commited to NC then I would not of had to come to this choice. AGAIN I WILL NOT LIVE IN AN OPEN MARRIAGE.

Seeing lawyer tomorrow at 2:30.

Good luck.

hardtime · 09-16-2011, 07:18 AM

Part of me is very scared today. I want to tell her that I am willing to work on my issues if she would do the same. But she is not willing to go to any kind of counseling, so I don't feel like I have any choice. Today is going to be hard.

Entropy3000 · 09-16-2011, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by hardtime

Part of me is very scared today. I want to tell her that I am willing to work on my issues if she would do the same. But she is not willing to go to any kind of counseling, so I don't feel like I have any choice. Today is going to be hard.

Indeed. You can get through this however. You can work on yourself. You can find happiness. When you are ready you will be able to find someone else who will not cause you this much pain. Someone who can be faithful to you and to whom you can show your love.

Unsure in Seattle · 09-16-2011, 10:15 AM

I know it's scary, HT, but you need to stick to your guns. She needs to see that her actions have consequences.

Good luck at the lawyer's office today.