Wow, she is pissed. Came home today, and immediately she tells me its a great f#@#ing day. First I get my notice to pick up divorce papers, and then I am being sued for extorition from Carly's(my stepdaughter) dad for trying to raise his child support. Stayed around for about an hour and then came to tell our 2 1/2 year old goodbye and see you in the morning. Balling the whole time. Karma is starting to kick in.
Wow, she is pissed. Came home today, and immediately she tells me its a great f#@#ing day. First I get my notice to pick up divorce papers, and then I am being sued for extorition from Carly's(my stepdaughter) dad for trying to raise his child support. Stayed around for about an hour and then came to tell our 2 1/2 year old goodbye and see you in the morning. Balling the whole time. Karma is starting to kick in.
hardtime - I'm confused the second part of your message thats bolded above - are you referring to you or her? This wasn't clear to me.
I don't know if it karma or just some women that has made bad choices, like #1 no doing a NC with OM to avoid divorce, and #2 no going to court for more child support when you most likely have enough and/or refuse visitation ( hence the extortion).
Face it when you you continue to make bad choice for your self with out any concern for others the drama will pile up.
I don't know if it karma or just some women that has made bad choices, like #1 no doing a NC with OM to avoid divorce, and #2 no going to court for more child support when you most likely have enough and/or refuse visitation ( hence the extortion).
Face it when you you continue to make bad choice for your self with out any concern for others the drama will pile up.
hardtime. keep me informed as to how this turns out. This situation is very, very similar to mine. Very curious to see what happens
Will do. Doesn't look good for a R. Deep down inside me, I would like to think it is possible, but been through a lot of lies , and blame thrown my way. I do accept some of that, but doesn't justify an affair. No sign of a turn around on her part. Well the clock is ticking towards divorce. If I decide to change my mind, it will be my decision, and under my terms (NC, transparency and MC).
Been a few days since last post. Things have not changed much. Her truck brole down, and expected me to take to shop to have looked at. Told her sorry, but didn't have time to. Now I am expecting her to ask for help paying for repairs. Not sure how to tell her no. I just don't feel like I should help, seeing how she wants a seperation. I guessI feel like she needs to know what an independent person has to deal with financially and emotionally.
Been a few days since last post. Things have not changed much. Her truck brole down, and expected me to take to shop to have looked at. Told her sorry, but didn't have time to. Now I am expecting her to ask for help paying for repairs. Not sure how to tell her no. I just don't feel like I should help, seeing how she wants a seperation. I guessI feel like she needs to know what an independent person has to deal with financially and emotionally.
Exactly. She needs to experience the reality that being divorced is going to be like. You are no longer going to be her support system, not as long as she wants separation and continuing the affair. Let her damn OM help her since she thinks so highly of him and so lowly of you.
Exactly. She needs to experience the reality that being divorced is going to be like. You are no longer going to be her support system, not as long as she wants separation and continuing the affair. Let her damn OM help her since she thinks so highly of him and so lowly of you.
Just hurts to know that a year ago 4 months ago, I would have done anything to help. But now have to be kind of mean. I guess it is just part of the process of healing.
Exactly. She needs to experience the reality that being divorced is going to be like. You are no longer going to be her support system, not as long as she wants separation and continuing the affair. Let her damn OM help her since she thinks so highly of him and so lowly of you.
this is where the love gets tough! Tough Love, tell her its tough love. Since you won't be option #2, she has to have option #1 help her with her sh!t.
Just hurts to know that a year ago 4 months ago, I would have done anything to help. But now have to be kind of mean. I guess it is just part of the process of healing.
What u are doing isn't mean, if said properly with the right tone. Make it matter-of-factly, like you'd be stupid for doing it and you have to take care of yourself as you only have to honor vows that are being honored BACK.
Just say matter-of-factly - "Look WW, you choose to have a relationship with OM. How am I responsible for your problems when you've given them and your heart to OM? Would u do the same for me if I was cheating on you? Give him a call and see how much he cares for you! Give him a chance..... because I'm letting you go."
Going to have a hardtime this Friday. Step daughters 13th birthday, and my family is coming over for cake and ice cream. WW is going to be there. I am sure the tension will be high. I ham hopong that everything goes ok.
Going to have a hardtime this Friday. Step daughters 13th birthday, and my family is coming over for cake and ice cream. WW is going to be there. I am sure the tension will be high. I ham hopong that everything goes ok.
Don't understand why WW would be invited to your families event. Way to awkward for your family.
Re: Had enough balme thrown at me 
