Now is a good time to separate your finances. ANYthing that she uses, stop paying for if you can do without it. If you have the same phone service, cancel it and start your own. If there's a favorite pastry she likes, stop buying it. Stop washing her clothes, don't buy her toothpaste...let her see what single looks like.
Already done. Went as far as to turn down water heater, as she always wanted it so hot that you couldn't put your hands under without it burning. Only buy things as I or the kids need them. Nothing special forher sake.
The bills I refered to are for gas, electric, internet, phone, tv.
These are bills that are in my name, but that she enjoys, because she has not moved out yet. Cell phone is her own, truck is her own, insurances are her own, gas and food and all other pleasure things are her own.
i just think that she should be responsable for the household bills also.
It probably isn't worth the fight for the utilities. There are plenty of things much harder to deal with already.
You could block her at the router for the Internet. I would probably do that just to be a spiteful bastard, but hey that's me.
It probably isn't worth the fight for the utilities. There are plenty of things much harder to deal with already.
You could block her at the router for the Internet. I would probably do that just to be a spiteful bastard, but hey that's me.
If she aint paying for it, she shan't be using it. Simple, when its doable like the internet / router. Definitely harder for the other utils.
OK, not sure what to do. I asked her when she was going to move out, and she said I don't know now, because I had to pay to get truck fixed. She will not pay for anything to do with house (mortg, phone, elec, gas, etc). What do I do to get her out or help pay for these things? Does she legaly have to help out or not?
Have you talked about reconciliation lately? Have you given up? Can't tell whats going on. She seems to be wavering on the separation.
Have you talked about reconciliation lately? Have you given up? Can't tell whats going on. She seems to be wavering on the separation.
Also sounds like your trying to drive her out.
R is out of the question right now. She will not quit contact with OM. I will not stand forit anymore. As far as driving her out, probably a little bit. just can't stand the hurtful things she does. Left Sat afternoon, never came home until late Sun afternoon. I can't plan anything, because I never know when she is going to be here. If she was out of the house, at least I could make plans according to children being here or with her(on a schedule). She has hurt me so much in the last month, I don't know if R is possable. Am still willing to try by way of MC, but don't know if I can get past the things said and done.
Her going out and saying out all weekend? Wow. Has she no shame? Perhaps put a sign on the front lawn with an hourly count saying: # hours cheating since her last pit stop at home"
Frankly she need ps to feel humiliated and hurt, she deserves it in spades. Posted via Mobile Device
Just moved over from coping with infidelity forum. (Wife had an affair). Finally had enough last night and am going to file for divorce. I could only take so much blame, and she can't except much. Just ready to move forward. My anger is deep in the fact that she was not willing to commit to trying to work on our marriage. Not sure what happens now, but with the help of all of you that are going through or have been through this and the advice of my lawyer, I know I can get through this.
She is the one who had an affair, so the bulk of the repair work to save the marriage should be done by HER. She is obviously not showing any remorse as she is unwilling to work at saving the marriage. You are doing the right thing by filing for divorce.
She is the one who had an affair, so the bulk of the repair work to save the marriage should be done by HER. She is obviously not showing any remorse as she is unwilling to work at saving the marriage. You are doing the right thing by filing for divorce.
Re: Had enough balme thrown at me 
