Re: Will divorce hurt my kids and was my wife chatting with an OM?
HoustonDad, the ex (whom I am still living with, and hopefully no further than 2 weeks now) made plans this weekend on Saturday to go out to Kemah. She specifically said it was with a girlfriend of hers to check out the boardwalk halloween b.s. going on.
She packed a backpack full of clothes intent on staying the night, because "all the events were at night".
I had a nice weekend with my daughter in the meantime. While the ex went and lived her b.s. fantasy out with another man. Its part of the "excitement" that attempting to keep this all a secret brings her fantasy. Thats the thrill of it for cheating, lying hobags.
Your kids are going to be fine, and I cant quite imagine a good mom being "just fine" seeing her kids thru skype video chat, and that being sufficient for her. so shes obviously out in cuckoo land.
Letting go is the right thing. Rest assured shes got plenty planned, in her little secret fantasy land. The thing is with my ex, is that nothing is as secret as she thinks. As soon as I am out of there, the secret no longer matters, and that fantasy will soon be a reality mired in a disaster of two people who are faced with their own reality. That reality being, that they both are cheaters that had to do "that" to get what they think they wanted.
It was hilarious watching my ex try to sneak her bottle of alcoholic whipped cream back into her cabinet, after unpacking when she got home.
It is just ridiculous. And you are being handed the bricks with which to build that wall between you and her. Let it be built.
Be the best dad you can be, enjoy your time with the kids, make them your priority, and I will tell you what, when the dust settles in your ex-wife's life, and she has that OMG moment, theres nothing thats going to drag her azz out of the darkness of the well she will feel shes flung herself, other than lots of therapy and medication.
Meanwhile, you will have established a sound, loving home and relationship with your kids.
My daugher (9) asked me Sunday if I was depressed. I said, nope! I am a little sad about what happened to our family, but I am okay".
She said she wants me to hurry up and meet a lady who has kids her age,, so she will have someone to play with...
His delay, is not a denial.