We have only been married a year and yet I'm all ready feeling as if I'm checking out. We both have kids from previous marriages. She has made it clear that her and her sons feeling always come before me and my kids. She hates my kids mom(they have gotten into verbal altercations) and basically doesn't want me communicating with her pretty much. We have fought a lot about that. She thinks I role over to her when I'm just trying to find out about my kids and see them. She has called me names such as a "f'n p***y" and a "little b****" while arguing about it. I'm at the point where I almost feel like I have to hide comunication with my ex to find out things with my kids.
I'm constantly on eggshells about what she is going to get mad about next. Recently my kids went to Disneyland with there mom and she is all upset and resentful that her son doesn't get to go, so now I have to pay for a trip for us to go to Disneyland next year and she said she doesn't want my kids to come. She doesn't want to ruin the experience for her son. I always have to remind her that if I was to say these things to her she would be upset and probably leave me. She almost always apologizes after she gets mean. She says she's sorry and won't get mean again, that she has a hard time controlling herself. The last one was she got stuck in traffic picking my kids up from school, which she only does once a week. She told me she is never picking them up again. I had to remind her I take her son to school every morning and make him breakfast and lunch. She then apologized again. I don't get my kids as much as she gets her son. On two occasions she has made me feel bad for taking my kids when her son was with his dad because we need more "alone time". Which hurts because she knows how much I miss my kids.
She has also already threatened to leave three times. Every time the next day she apologizes and says she can't live without me.
She is a good wife in other ways. When my kids ARE here she does a lot for them. She cooks, cleans does laundry. Of course I help when I can.
I'm just really torn and can't handle this up and down, and hate to say I'm having regrets. I have tried to talk to her and she says I need to stop living in the past and get over the things she says, and that I'm going to ruin our relationship.
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I'm constantly on eggshells about what she is going to get mad about next. Recently my kids went to Disneyland with there mom and she is all upset and resentful that her son doesn't get to go, so now I have to pay for a trip for us to go to Disneyland next year and she said she doesn't want my kids to come. She doesn't want to ruin the experience for her son. I always have to remind her that if I was to say these things to her she would be upset and probably leave me. She almost always apologizes after she gets mean. She says she's sorry and won't get mean again, that she has a hard time controlling herself. The last one was she got stuck in traffic picking my kids up from school, which she only does once a week. She told me she is never picking them up again. I had to remind her I take her son to school every morning and make him breakfast and lunch. She then apologized again. I don't get my kids as much as she gets her son. On two occasions she has made me feel bad for taking my kids when her son was with his dad because we need more "alone time". Which hurts because she knows how much I miss my kids.
She has also already threatened to leave three times. Every time the next day she apologizes and says she can't live without me.
She is a good wife in other ways. When my kids ARE here she does a lot for them. She cooks, cleans does laundry. Of course I help when I can.
I'm just really torn and can't handle this up and down, and hate to say I'm having regrets. I have tried to talk to her and she says I need to stop living in the past and get over the things she says, and that I'm going to ruin our relationship.
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