Re: How does a military divorce work?
First of all, the military JAG's usually do not get involved in domestic items like divorce. They might give a little advice, but you would be best served to see a civilian lawyer for advice.
Sorry that you gave up a career for your wife and now she wants out. You can only control yourself, so don't pay her a lot of attention.
A military divorce is like any other divorce. You don't mention kids, so hopefully you will not have that drama. I hate to tell you that she has not been in long enough for you to demand a portion of her pension, I believe the minimum is 10 years.
What I would do:
- Split the bank account in half and put your half in a separate account. Do this first so you have money to start with. Online banking works well, I use USAA.
- Split your marital assets and ship everything that is yours back to the states.
- Secure a place to live and move back to the states.
- Once you get there, establish residency, if necessary, and file for divorce.
- Make sure to request half of her retirement fund if she has established one.
Since she is overseas at the moment, the process may take a while. Once you reach whatever state requirement is that you reside in, you might be able to get a default divorce without her. Most likely she will have some legal protection till she returns to the states.
So don't hold your breath on a quick divorce, may take a couple years. Which is why I recommend you split your stuff first and get it out of the house. That way she can't sell it once you leave.
You are stuck in an unenviable position right now. Take action to protect yourself and your possessions while you can. At least you got a heads up.