Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Away and beyond in a hot place
Re: Too many issues and resentment
TX, sorry you are here. It cannot be easy with a young kid, one on the way and a H who seems to be so wrapped up in himself he cannot see the wood for the trees.
You need to have a plan that doesn't include him.
Do you have family or friends close by? The cheating does not seem to have been dealt with properly, you rug swept and he got off scott free and doesn't have any respect for you.
How old are you both?
You cannot change him, threaten him, cajole him, it never works. The only one you have control over is yourself so you have to work on yourself and your own circumstances, make a plan for you.
Keep putting the money away in a separate account. Perhaps seek help from any single mother organisations, womens organisations in your area.
If bills end up unpaid let them, just pay for your car, the absolute necessities.
Talk to your family or close friends and ask for their help to leave him. Get yourself some IC to keep you balanced, with all those pregnancy hormones flying around, this will not be easy.
Alternatively tell him you want a separation and ask him to move out
speak with a lawyer as to your rights, he will have to pay child support
start your life afresh, he has had many opportunities to make things right, he has cheated, he has done nothing to make things better, he doesn't help you, time to kick his ass out. It might be a wake up call for him, it might not but at least you will be able to start your life afresh, you do not need his immaturity and cheating ways dragging you down.