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post #16 of 20 (permalink) Old 10-26-2016, 10:10 AM
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Re: Married 3 months but I'm Finished

She doesn't like the priorities you give your dog. I'm a dog owner, I love my dog but she'd never get away with hanging out under the kitchen table with me saying "There's no way she's going to move".

I'll bet you allow the dog in the bed with you too, and prioritize the dog in other ways.

Look I'm a dog lover, I've said as much but it's still a not so smart 4 legged animal much lower on the evolutionary scale than we are. At least most of us.

I get why your new wife is having an issue with it, but on the other hand if it was that way before it's really unfair of her to expect things to be suddenly different just because you're now married.

Either way, the situation is what it is, either get the dog out from under the table and off your bed or risk losing your wife.

Don't say you didn't have fair warning.

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post #17 of 20 (permalink) Old 10-28-2016, 11:18 AM
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Re: Married 3 months but I'm Finished

I bet you two had sex on the first or second date right? And I bet the next six months (your best ever) you two had lot's of sex right?

If what I asked is true than you probably married not knowing each other very well, lust has been confused with love by about every one, and lots of sex right away blinds you to reality.

The honeymoon phase of the relationship is over, now you see what you got, and that applies for her as well. Throw in the towel already? Not sure, many relationships have some growing pains, I think you two need to have some frank discussions about what you want out of life and expect out of your spouse.

And hard is it to get the dog out from under the table? What a silly thing to fight about.
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post #18 of 20 (permalink) Old 10-28-2016, 07:41 PM
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Sounds rough. Have you considered counseling by any chance? You may have to reconsider what your dog is allowed to do. In saying that I ought to have left my marriage early on rather than waiting.
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post #19 of 20 (permalink) Old 01-06-2017, 10:37 AM
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In all fairness, the dog was in the man's life before his now wife was. If my husband told me to put my small dogs outside while we ate, I wouldn't back him up either. The 2 12-pounders that we now call "ours" were rescued by me years before him and I became involved. I made a commitment to them to give them a better life than what they came from (both have horrid backgrounds), and I'll honour that commitment until they day that they're no longer with us. I should also say that I volunteer for a local rescue society, and have some very strong animal rights opinions and feelings. I needed a man who understands this, and my relationship with my dogs, and this is one position that H excels at! So, I totally get why the OP didn't just put his dog outside. That all being said, you CAN train any animal to not beg at the table; it just takes time and consistency.

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Re: Married 3 months but I'm Finished

Speaking as a moderator

OP has not been back for over 2 months after his one and only post.

As a result this thread is now closed.

If he wishes to return and have a discussion he can PM a mod to have it reopened.
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