I have been married to my wife now for 3 months. We dated for around 6 months and they were the best 6 months of my life! Since we got engaged we have basically been fighting every day!
My wife was a single mother and brought into the relationship a 2 year old and no money. I brought into the relationship a small dog and my money. I paid for our wedding and 90% of our living expenses.
There are a lot of things about my relationship that bothers me and there is no way I can mention them all in one thread, but nothing makes me want to back out more then when my wife gets upset or annoyed about something so she shuts me out!
Just tonight we had a nice dinner and a nice conversation and we were supposed to lay in bed and watch a TV show together but she became upset that my dog was sitting under the table and I didn't make her go away. She told the dog to go away twice and I didn't back her up. (Since we were eating dinner there was practically zero chance of making my dog go away).
Now that something has upset my wife she has shut me out and is watching a TV show on her computer by herself. Whenever I do something that upsets her she pushes me away. I have tolerated this for a long time but it hurts and it doesn't seem like a healthy relationship to be in.
I'm not sure what to do. Should I be trying to accommodate her more?
I think her reacting by shutting me out is very unhealthy, am I wrong?
Is there a way I can talk to her about this without making things worse?
I would love to hear what you guys think'
I think you don't value your wife very much.
I think it's normal for her to move away from her if she feels you are mistreating her.
I think you should work on communication with your wife and try to come to unity in what you both think will make the marriage work.
There are many materials out there that you two can use to build your marriage. Relationships take effort from both people. It is healthy for you to look into how to do that and to work with your wife to make it happen.
Regarding the finances, you knew she was broke when you married her. Now you are bringing up finances as if you are resentful of paying for pretty much everything, including the wedding. You paid for the wedding, because you were in love. Now you seem to regret your gift. Too late. Stop holding it against her and stop holding her financial position against her. If you think she needs to contribute more financially to the family finances, then talk with her about it and work together to find a solution. Maybe she could go back to school and develop the skills she needs to make it worth while. Going back to work with a child who needs care during work can making working pointless, as childcare costs can be as much as a person is making at the job, especially when you consider all the other expenses associated with working.
Maybe you could brainstorm and come up with something that she could do from home. Does she love children? Maybe she could have an in-home daycare. Is there anything she loves to do that can be done for profit from home? Maybe you could work together to make a plan for how she could develop skills for this or to start a business.
It sounds to me that now the fun has worn off and real life has taken its place. It's time to start thinking about how to make it work before you even consider trying to figure out how to bail on her.