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post #16 of 19 (permalink) Old 12-02-2016, 03:49 AM
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Re: Civil, Respectful Divorce?

I had an amicable divorce, and could have easily chosen to sue my H for the parts I had no control over but decided against it. I did the majority of the D work, he and his lawyer just agreed to it all. And I was more fair to him than to myself, but that's because I wanted away from him fast and permanently.

We didn't have children, although we tried. I wanted them but it's a blessing that we didn't... Id be paying thousands for their therapy...

We haven't communicated in years.

Not sure how helpful this is, but just wanted to share my opinion that yes it can be amicable.

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Re: Civil, Respectful Divorce?

Some situations are so toxic that it's best just to split and never lay eyes on each other again. It works for me to sever those ties completely. Helps to alleviate the pain. My kids are older and they get it.
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Re: Civil, Respectful Divorce?

Yes, it IS possible to have a civil divorce and co-parent amicably. You both just need to keep in mind that this is for the benefit of your children, YOUR needs are secondary to theirs. I sucked up a lot of bullsh!t and bitterness with my daughter's dad for her sake, and managed to stay on good terms with him throughout. It CAN be done.

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Re: Civil, Respectful Divorce?

My husband and I just decided to separation and will be using a mediator to hammer out the details of our legal separation. I'll keep you posted as to how successful we are in keeping it amicable. I'm hopeful we'll keep it friendly - despite agreeing to part ways, we are still friends and have no resentment/bitterness.
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