Re: wife moving out and I'm so hurt and confused
If your wife died, would your life be over? Would you never find someone else? You'd do whatever you had to do to make your life how you wanted it, right?
You have to start living like she died. You are going to have to change and deal with it. You can.
It's going to hurt, BADLY. You're likely going to wish you didn't have to go on. That you can't do it. That's bs. You can. And God MAY have something better for your life waiting on you. The hard part is this: Having faith that you're being taken care of. You ARE.
We have been through this. You can,too! Mourn your loss. Don't try not to.
I will say this. I truly believe if you will refuse to chase her, give her what she wants, and move forward with your life---- she will respect that and you have a chance she will return. But, it may be so long that you won't care when she does. She's a chronically depressed person, who takes medication and doesn't have the loyalty to tell you there's a problem and ask for help. She just says "see y'all" and leaves.
Is that the best you can do in a wife? I really doubt it.
If she leaves, the majority of the time they don't come back. And even though it's so far from what you want NOW, it may be the best thing that could've happened to you both. You will feel differently than you do now. Right now you're wanting to hang on for dear life because you don't want the change you're about to experience.
Just remember: Be the man that people you love want you to be. A strong man. A man who doesn't let his emotions overcome him. A man who pushes through a tempest and comes out smiling.
Sir, I KNOW what you're feeling. I KNOW how you're hurting. That's why I'm taking the time to respond, so you'll know others have been through this and come out the other side. I'm sitting at a gas station as we speak. I'm going home to work on a fishing boat. Later I'll go eat supper with my gf who is gorgeous, speaks 3 languages, loves to fish with me, and is a great cook.
I've been divorced 2 years. I didn't want it. She did. She did change overnight-- she was cheating. Yours may not be. But her feelings have changed. And she wants to leave. As a result you will have to change. Don't worry about fair. Deal with whatever comes your way. You won't break. You'll get even stronger. And when it's over and done, you'll know that YOU are stronger than you thought possible.
And keep posting. It will help.
This is a lot to handle alone.
It's your birthday. Your mindset will determine whether the next one is happy or sad---- not your wife.
I know it hurts, but wishing you the strength to make it a birthday in more ways than one.