Just a quick update. We have talked a little, I asked directly if she wanted a divorce or was moving out so she could see or be with someone else. She seemed surprised I had asked about divorce, she said an emphatic no. She also denied wanting anyone else, she re-iterated that she needed time to think and get her own mind straight. She said she could easily have cheated but hasn't.
We talked a little about how she is feeling and there is definitely something wrong. She has changed (I know we all do with age), she behaves differently, thinks differently. For example I've noticed how messy she has become, not bothering to clear up after herself. She used to be much more house proud. Another example would be she said that she is becoming irritated, annoyed or even angry by things, like noises, a squeak or rattle in the car or even some music. She seems confused by the changes and her own thinking.
I talked about her seeing the doctor, said that regardless of how this turned out she needed to look after herself. I said the doctor needs to help and advise her regarding her medication (prozac and levothyrosine) and the menapause. Even if she decides she no longer wants to be married she needs to be healthy. She agreed and will see the doctor. Unfortunately she is away working from tonight so it will be next week).
Poor misinterpretation of your wife's actions:
What I see:
Messy because it's no longer her place, it's YOUR place. Her new house she will be "house proud" of. Don't worry.
Annoyed with things? Yeah, anything associated with you or her old life. She has a new life in mind.
She's changed alright--- she's no longer in love with you. And instead of turning you loose, she's very cruelly stringing you along. Enjoying the attention, watching a man pine for her, and using you for your moving furniture and fixing abilities.
They change. Especially when they fall out of love with their man.
You should force yourself to accept this huge change that you can do nothing about.
You are not doomed. You are starting a new life where you can meet a woman that doesn't need dope to be happy or stay sane.
You've been given a gift. Accept it with a happy heart and move the **** on before you make yourself miserable.
How can I say this? Because I've lived it.