Madbunny

My husband sees that there is a problem,yet says that the problem is mine.He believes that if I just go back to normal everything will be fine.I have been dealing with this for over 2 years now and it has affected every aspect of our marriage

.Just recently after him telling me to go ahead and leave at least 8 times,I told him that I am now seriously thinking about it.Now he is washing dishes and being a general ass about kitchen hygeine and freaks out if there is 1 dish in the sink.

This from a man who sleeps in the livingroom and leaves his blanket and pillow on the couch and magazines and beer cans all over the coffee table.His thing is as he says that he is embarrassed for people to come in if there are dishes in the sink

.Everytime i point out something he always has a counter complaint or lays blame off on someone else.eg: ME "Could you please pick up the cans all over the table?"HIM "oh gee i see a sprite can in those they aren't all mine,and what about your stuff on the porch thats has been there for a week?"

In my world everything is my fault,I either deal with it and shut up or have WWIII everyday.I love this man but all of this and his constant negativity and put downs just suck the life out of me.

one_strange_otter

My wife used to threaten divorce ever argument we had. I finally said if she mentioned it one more time I would take her up on it. She predictably did and I followed through and left for my sisters house. I wasn't even at the end of the street when she started calling crying about me breaking her heart and she would change. I stayed at my sisters either way and came home the next day. The only time i've ever done something like that. But that was a few years ago. She was a different woman for about two weeks doing all the things I wanted her to do. That slacked off and we are back to the start. Even recently she has started saying that if i want a wife that cooks and cleans I should find someone else because it's not who she is. I just stopped replying because that pretty much sums it up. Yet strangely I feel she will be shocked when I sit her down and tell her I'm taking up her offer for real this time.