12-29-2011, 03:59 PM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Re: Those considering Seperation/Divorce...does your spouse see??
My husband sees that there is a problem,yet says that the problem is mine.He believes that if I just go back to normal everything will be fine.I have been dealing with this for over 2 years now and it has affected every aspect of our marriage
.Just recently after him telling me to go ahead and leave at least 8 times,I told him that I am now seriously thinking about it.Now he is washing dishes and being a general ass about kitchen hygeine and freaks out if there is 1 dish in the sink.
This from a man who sleeps in the livingroom and leaves his blanket and pillow on the couch and magazines and beer cans all over the coffee table.His thing is as he says that he is embarrassed for people to come in if there are dishes in the sink
.Everytime i point out something he always has a counter complaint or lays blame off on someone else.eg: ME "Could you please pick up the cans all over the table?"HIM "oh gee i see a sprite can in those they aren't all mine,and what about your stuff on the porch thats has been there for a week?"
In my world everything is my fault,I either deal with it and shut up or have WWIII everyday.I love this man but all of this and his constant negativity and put downs just suck the life out of me.