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post #46 of 82 (permalink) Old 12-27-2016, 05:34 AM
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She needs to find out exactly what he's up to and verify it by getting hold of as much data as she can herself from his devices. It can't be that difficult if she keeps finding them. Not only to understand what she is dealing with but also, as I wrote, she may have a duty to report him to the authorities if she has reason to suspect there is anything worse.
I am probably missing something but there was never any suggestion by the OP that there could be anything more than 'pics of my bum' on his devices. There is creepiness and there are criminals and depending on facts, this requires different courses of action.

My worry is that she may not do any of this because of financial dependence, as it seems to be the case, given that it has been going on for years.


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Inmyprime I always try to look at both sides of an issue, sometimes I will argue an opposing view just for the sake of getting others to open their eyes to "what if"

The thing you are missing in this scenario is the wife caught the husband doing this back about six months ago. She confronted him, told him it creeps her out, told him to stop it. But he didn't…what he did was go subversive and escalated his platform, instead of just sneaking pictures of her in bed now he has hidden cameras in places the wife expects privacy, he has escalated from still pictures to videos. Simply by chance I would imagine the daughter could have ended up being taped.
One of the things that makes advice on CWI threads (and I read many) so useful is the huge extrapolation from seemingly unrelated facts (which often turns out to be true or much worse).
In normal walks of life, this would be considered prejudice or paranoia but for some reason, it works for victims on CWI. Maybe this is because there is a common behavioural pattern that can be read by many who have been through this. In any case, maybe it's because you guys have a better nose for these things.
I don't have this experience and so I better stop with unhelpful and confusing comments.
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Thanks everyone for your input. I think I'm gonna call the police first and go from there. I checked the kids bathroom and never found anything suspicious. Luckily my daughter has never ever used the master bathroom for showers and my in laws have their own apartment attached to my house.
Somebody said that I must enjoy being a victim but I swear to you that is not true. I really feel stuck in this situation. I'm a very simple person and I'm not looking to get a luxury apartment for myself, however rent in my town is really expensive and one lawyer suggested not to go too far or I could loose custody of the kids. The school here are really good he said. Moving in a section 8 type of place won't help me.

I worry about my in laws too because they are the nicest people you'll ever meet. I hope they never find out what his son is doing.

I will keep you guys posted. Thanks for taking your time to read this
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You can try running a picture of yourself on a facial recognition site to see if there are any hits.
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Why wouldn't you expose him to his parents? Why do you want to protect him? I think you need some counseling too, this isn't normal.

You need to expose this to EVERYONE! No one should let this creep into their homes or let their kids go anywhere near him. You are protecting a sexual predator.
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Can you give me a website? Thanks
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The police came over yesterday and didn't find anything in the kids room. They are conducting an investigation but I really believe he's obsessed with me
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Good for you!

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.


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Wow, there are so many things wrong with this picture.

First off, your in-laws are not your responsibility; they would go live with your husband after divorce/separation. They don't have to move; he can buy out your portion of the house, and continue living there with them.

Secondly, I don't know your entire story, but with what you just posted here, I would say to NOT even consider separating but living in the same house. I personally wouldn't trust your husband as far as I could throw him, which probably wouldn't be far. He sounds like he has a few sexual perversions, and I also wouldn't trust him around a 14 year old girl (your daughter). It would be more traumatic for her to be photographed like you have been, than it would be to live in a separate house from her father.

Personally, I would get out sooner rather than later!


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Hello again,
It's been a while since I posted here. A while ago I shared my story about my husband's obsession with taking pictures of my private parts while I'm sleeping.
On Mother's Day I found 2 spy cameras in my bathroom and I was furious and almost moved out. He cried and cried asking for forgiveness, saying that he learned his lesson.
Couple of months ago I found an iPod with pics of my butt! But I haven't sayed a word. Everyday I find more stuff, like spy cameras, a millions of different charges, portable hard drivers, a laptop that I never see him using it, and so on.
This time I want to file for separation. I don't wanna press charges against him because our first daughter is 14 years old and that would be traumatic.
For those of you going trough divorce or separation and have small children, not enough money to be on your own, not family members close, HOW YOU DO IT?
Selling the house now is not possible. I have my in laws too and I can't make them move again. They're in late 70s!
It is really possible to be separated under the same roof?? I don't like the idea but my shift starts early in the morning and my son is only 4. I don't wanna leave him here, even thou my husband is overalll a good father.
I feel stuck in a hole😞
Any advise is greatly appreciated and thanks for reading this.
( no marriage counseling )
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If he put cameras in a washroom, then there's a good chance that their daughter has been filmed though, especially if that's the only washroom in the house. A couple others have mentioned other friends and family members, and yeah, the same goes with them, unless when they visit, they're able to hold their urine for a few hours.

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You are insinuating that because he is filming his wife, his daughters must therefore also be in danger and accuse me of re-framing the narrative?
Never mind.
Btw i'm in no way condoning his actions (it's wrong, if the other person doesn't know about it) but I cannot stand it when people jump to ridiculous conclusions for the sake of it. I'm just offering an alternative possibility to help & get over the initial (justified) shock and perhaps have a proper conversation before tearing family apart. The latter can always be done, but never be undone.


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The police came over yesterday and didn't find anything in the kids room. They are conducting an investigation but I really believe he's obsessed with me
What DID they find?
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They didn't find anything. They are trying to find out if he was posting them online.
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What does he have to say for himself being investigated like this?
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He doesn't know yet.
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They didn't find anything. They are trying to find out if he was posting them online.
Are you saying they found zero cameras in the entire house?

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.


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