Re: More pictures while I'm sleeping
If your biggest concern is his lack of respecting your boundaries living under the same roof isn't an option. Do you think that will make him stop taking secret pictures of you? I remember you story from before, if I was you I would be scared to death he was taking pictures of your 14 year old daughter as well. Even if you never find pictures of your daughter I would bet he has them, if he has cameras set up in the home she has wondered into some of those pictures. You are afraid of causing her trauma by charging her father, but think of the trauma when pictures of her start turning up on the internet.
First thing is I hope you are documenting everything, create a file for copies of all the pictures you can find, copies of receipts for all his surveillance gear, take pictures of the hidden cameras when you find them, keep track of all his new and old electronic devises.
Here's a major issue in my eyes, if you separate or divorce he still has all the pictures, pictures of you, possibly your friends, possibly pictures of your daughter and of her friends. With those pictures in his possession how could you ever relax? Those pictures could show up on the internet tomorrow or ten years from now.
The least traumatic approach I could see would be to hire a forensic investigator to examine all your husbands electronics, you could do this without the kids knowledge but your husband would need to be willing to have it done (and I bet he wont). An investigator may be able to find all those hidden folders and delete them. A couple of negatives though, if the pictures have been posted off device they're out there forever, they can't be pulled back.. and if the investigator finds pictures of minors I believe he will have an obligation to involve the authorities, your husband will go to jail.
If this was just a one time thing I wouldn't worry so much, but this has been an on going issue, he has a compulsion he can't stop, he has just become more subversive by hiding cameras around the house. He needs help and you need to protect yourself and your kids.
OP I feel very sorry for you, you are in a very uncomfortable position, now matter what you do lives will be affected.
Last edited by Cooper; 12-26-2016 at 11:25 AM.